Learn from Discomfort

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Do what you fear and fear disappears.- David Joseph Schwartz

In my past posts, Fail to Succeed, No Exceptions!, and Being the Difference, you will notice that all of these articles not only include ways in which all of us can better ourselves in one way or another, but also includes ideas that will require you to go out of your comfort zone. So lets dive in a little bit about this “comfort zone” of yours a little now.

It’s not easy to spend our time, energy, or words when it feels uncomfortable or inconvenient. When was the last time that you left your comfort zone and worked on a project that truly challenged you? What about the last time you felt uncomfortable? Discomfort isn’t bad. It’s just not what we are used to. Remaining comfortable often means not growing.  These opinions expressed in this article have come from all experiences I have endeavored so far, including the most recent experience of moving 1,500 miles from Little Rock, Arkansas to Boston, Massachusetts.

First, as almost all of you know, the comfort zone is a behavioural space where activities and behaviours fit a routine and pattern that minimizes stress and risk. It provides a state of mental security. We benefit in obvious ways: regular happiness, low anxiety, and reduced stress.


Comfort comes easy to us. However, it does not give us adrenaline, diversity, and news. As I have found, worthwhile ambition will not be accomplished within our comfort zone so we must give up on being secure with the known and expand ourselves into the discomfort of uncertainty. Here, we can create new opportunity and grow confidence. As we expand, so does our confidence to take on bigger challenges.

When I decided to make the move from Little Rock (population193,524) to the Greater Boston Area (population 4.5 million), it was the most that I have ever been out of my comfort zone before. Making the move meant leaving family, friends, and the only environment that I’ve ever lived in. Looking back on the move now that I have finally been able to settle down and learn a new environment, this is the most important lesson I have learned so far. Be driven by what inspires you rather than what scares you.

The people you spend time with influence your attitude, thoughts, and success more than you might think. Don’t let anyone hold you back just because they don’t want to take the same path as you. All of the helpful skills and experiences that you don’t currently have lie outside your comfort zone. Use expanding your comfort zone as a learning tool, not to just feel comfortable. Comfort will come as you learn and build confidence in what you are experiencing.

The only boundaries in life are the ones we apply on ourselves. Risk the uneasiness of failure and be willing to learn from discomfort with these risks. Challenge conventions and push the boundaries of possibilities. Stepping beyond your comfort layer will expand your confidence to take risks and try new things. Too often we let mistakes and failures define us. Our world now is more cautious, yet competitive at the same time. Being eager to embrace your discomfort and give up what is familiar to you, the results have potential to be outstanding. Stop assessing yourself and understand that you are fantastic! There are no limits to your potential achievements.

Our communications, society, technology, and understanding are continually developing. Sooner or later, by not expanding our comfort zone and learning from new experiences, we will be left behind. There is no growth unless we embrace change and accept the fear of the unknown.



Thanks for everyone who has reached out to us so far and connected to both Zade and myself in a variety of ways. Continue to check back as we will be posting a couple articles a week! Have thoughts or ideas and want our next article to be about a question you have? Reach out to CuriousHumans and we will make it happen! Afterall, we want to explore and learn with you!



  1. I agree with what you say. We really do live when we stretch outside our comfort zone (but it is soooo easy to just linger there.) This sounds silly now, but early in my career, I was terrified of computers (I graduated high school in the early nineties, so computers weren’t a big part of my education.) Anyway, after a couple years working in insurance, I promoted to a job that was highly computer-based and included providing technical support to users. Many times during those first few weeks I uttered a panicked “oh my gosh, what did I do?” but I survived! (I’m sure I’d have the same feelings if I picked up and moved to Boston 🙂 )


  2. I believe very much in this message as I have lived it for many years. As a graduate of Little Rock’s, Parkview High School, in 1973, I wonder if it’s that sense of adventure in the great Arkansas outdoors that builds such confidence to take on the world. Thanks for visiting me at Willy Nilly and allowing me to visit a fellow Arkansan with a great message for all who dare!

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    1. That is a great view that I am sure Logan and myself both share, due to growing up in Arkansas. Being surrounded by nature and all of the life it offers (birds, animals of the ground, plant-life), it really instills a sense of awe and wonder, leading to that “take on the world” view that you mentioned!

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