A Quick Way to Increase your Social Abilities

Social Animals

We were born into a strange world where we, humans, just happened to be at the top of the food chain. We run the show, so to speak. Do you ever wonder how that happened? Why didn’t we become extinct and cease to exist like many species? Why aren’t we at risk of being eaten every day, or squashed like a bug?

Lucky for us, our brains began to grow substantially and allow us the ability to develop tools and communicate through language. Was this due to genetic variation and mutation, as Darwin suggested? Was there divine intervention of a supreme being? This, we cannot answer. But, we can speak about the details a little bit. The creation of tools led to easier hunting, and even agriculture. These are very beneficial abilities. Yet, this provides no decent comparison to the importance of language and being able to now probe into the thoughts of others, and question everything around us.


Now that we could talk, our search for food eventually became a walk in the park. We could communicate with other people. We shared. We developed agreements to watch each other’s back, help protect each other’s families. We can share survival techniques and express emotion. We can tickle other people and giggle until we cry (this is what I like to think the first humans spent all of their time doing). We took a giant leap and shed our title of “just another being trying to survive,” and turned into social animals. The world became a little less stressful.

Somewhere on the Earthly timeline, our need to depend on others has slowly diminished. As a whole, society functions together. But at the individual level, we live in our own social bubbles, trapped by stereotyping, fear of failure, depression, and low self-esteems. The “working together” passion of our brain, has become almost nonexistent. We are plagued with complacency. This post reminds me of a quote by the wonderful Albert Einstein.


“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”



So, how do we do it? How do we free ourselves of this prison of the mind? We can start by getting the hell away from technological toys for a moment.



Break away from technology!

Take the time to understand, that you do NOT need a cell phone, computer, or social network to function and be happy. Think about it! How important is it to update your Facebook status and let everyone know what you do throughout your entire day? Where is the mystery in that? Having this form of relationship with hundreds of friends on a social network only leads to a false sense of companionship. Rather than looking someone in their interesting eyes and asking what brings them joy in life or what worries them, we “like” their newest update or favorite their tweet.

Also, stop wasting time browsing pointless internet sites (which I am working on, as well) and limit yourself to only a few hours of television a week. Letting electronic stimuli provide your thinking for you as you sit hypnotized for hours, only shortens your attention span and dulls your creative instinct.   We constantly jump from interesting picture, to interesting show, to interesting article, to a constant bombardment of text messages consisting of “LOL” and “K.” It conditions us to need an electronic interaction a little too frequently. This is why we get so bored and miserable when driving without music, or sitting in a waiting room. If you separate yourself from these things, you will see a great decrease in your boredom and increase in that amazing focus we are world-renown for. Try and put down your cell phone for a little while. It is not a necessity and the separation will be refreshing. If not, I will personally give you three sincere complements. Yes, I’m that serious.  It seems silly that we all stare at an electronic box just to text so often, anyway.

Lastly, stop letting advertisements and celebrities tell you what is the “cool” thing to do, or the “cool” way to look is. NEWSFLASH. We are freaking humans.  We are literally the coolest thing on the planet, at the moment. We sing. We use chopsticks. We created Youtube strictly to review how neat we can be.


Break away from this delusion of the mind. Get out and meet people!


Once you have broken away from all of the fantastic technology in the world, step outside. Inhale through those lovely nostrils and allow yourself to be overwhelmed by the scents of our world. It’s truly wonderful. Take off your shoes and feel your feet on the Earth. When you have an opportunity to communicate with someone, or see a person who seems interesting, go talk to them! Find out what makes them tick. Take the time to listen to their responses and realize that we are all in this struggle together. We all face similar problems, and all have unique “survival” techniques that are waiting to be shared. Learn from those with more experience than you. Attain some of the knowledge they have learned over the years.  We need to trust that the good in others is there, even when it may not be.  I’m not suggesting you hug Freddy Krueger, but stop being so scared of what others think, or the infinite possibilities of what they will say to you.  Honestly, what’s there to be afraid of?  Pick others up, and allow them to pick you up.  Take the time to answer questions, and give advice if you see it can benefit someone’s struggle.  Go out in the world and learn from others, it’s what we are designed to do.






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